The internet is a funny place. People can frivolously post their dreams like “I’m gonna be a [insert whatever here],” or “I’m gonna go [insert far away place here]” and really don’t feel like they have to actually go out and accomplish any of what they’re saying. There seems to be a serious misconception that you can just throw things out into the universe via social media and that you don’t really have to put the actual work into making these things happen. Even more disturbing is the idea that validation for an incomplete thought is good enough. After all, why bother actually going out and chasing your dreams when you can sit behind a computer screen, spew nonsense, and still receive some kind of affirmation from strangers that you would receive if you actually went out and did these things?
Everyone is so self-centered and can barely remember what they themselves have posted on the internet, let alone what other people have posted. The odds of someone approaching you and saying, “Hey, didn’t I read on Facebook last year that you were moving to LA?” is so unlikely that the gamble is worth it. As long as people believe that you have some kind of ambition and don’t question the legitimacy of your musings, all is well!
I’ve also noticed an influx of people who will pursue a dream and will declare themselves successful during the most embryonic stages of their latest pursuit. It borderlines delusional how people can so easily identify with a new enterprise before they have actually contributed anything tangible to it or have even decided if they truly care about this endeavor.Like, “Oh, I’m a baker now because I baked cupcakes once and they were really good” or “Oh, I’m a photographer now because I took pictures and people liked them.” I’m not talking about people who try new things and then decide they don’t like them because everyone should always try new things and independently decide if they want to continue doing them. I am talking about the people who will sign up for a class or put money into a hobby and then will promptly label themselves as if they are pros at a craft (ie: calling themselves “musicians” when they bought a guitar, but never wrote/played any music), but then will give up the second shit gets real because they don’t wanna put in the work. They just want the reward without taking the risk!
I’m sorry to inform you that you actually have to put the same work in as everyone else in that field in order to receive the same credit. Success doesn’t come overnight and it takes persistently hard work and dedication. Just because you did something for 6 days or 6 months, doesn’t mean you are on the same level of people who put in years of doing what you attempted. It’s like if an intern in radio approached me and told me that they are a producer. I had to eat mountains of shit on a daily basis for YEARS to get to where I am. You cannot compare yourself to me if you are just a beginner because it’s not only insulting, but it’s completely wrong. And I am not shitting on beginners either because everyone starts somewhere. But please, know your place. Also, if you are giving up just as quickly as you claim to have “committed” to something, you will never be taken seriously. You just look lost and flaky. There is a reason why employers prefer shorter resumes; Something looks seriously amiss when you have been a singer, dancer, wedding planner, baker, candlestick maker, pianist, model, circus sideshow, dog whisperer, professional ditch digger, and international spy all in less than 2 years.
I have a lot of questions. Like, why doesn’t anyone want to actually become something other than a figment of their own imagination? How can anyone find contentment in validation when they are being patronized for having an ill-conceived notion that they shared with the click of a button? Why do people truly believe that being mediocre at multiple things is equivalent or greater than being excellent at one thing? But more importantly, why is this kind of behavior pacified and accepted? How is this allowed?
I guess in a way, I do understand it. No one wants to actually go the distance because working hard is hard work and it sucks. It fucking SUCKS to struggle everyday and to sacrifice personal comfort for a dream that might not even pan out. Unless you’re content with plateauing, it’s only going to get harder to climb higher. It hurts almost every step of the way to accomplish something so I can understand why fantasy is so much easier than reality. I have found myself often thinking that I want to just quit everything and become a gold digging trophy wife who never has to work or have a real dream again, but at the end of the day, even if I fail, at least I know I worked my ass off and THAT is something I am proud of.